Twin Flames

Twin Flames

They’re probably not words you’ve heard together very often, and if you have then this piece is definitely coming to you for a reason. At the risk of sounding esoteric and TOTALLY woo woo, this has been a topic that has been a significant one on my spiritual journey and I share it now as an offering of light to others on the same path, or to those who are just starting out.

Twin Flames are people who are deeply and totally connected from the time they incarnate into human suits and whose purpose is to come into this life to clear and heal each and every teeny, tiny, miniscule block to unconditional love within themselves so they can come back into partnership on the physical plane. As they do this, unconditional love is anchored onto the planet in an effort to shift the vibration and turn the chaos and mayhem around. No pressure.

While the journey back to unconditional love sounds like a lovely one, fit with butterflies, tea parties and pink cupcakes, it is often not the case. Coming back to unconditional love within oneself means that everything that is not love based needs to go, meaning everything that’s not love needs to be felt and all, not some, of that shit is uncomfortable. And not a ‘gee I’m feeling kinda blue today’ kind of uncomfortable, but a ‘the world is coming to an end and I have 17 daggers in my chest and all I can do is cry in my bed for 7 weeks’ kind of uncomfortable.  

All of the healing that is not-so-gently-encouraged on the Twin Flame journey is, in truth, a profound gift because with each devastation comes incredible insight, deeper connection to oneself and magical spiritual gifts. But it requires incredible courage, perseverance, trust, a willingness to learn and complete and total surrender. All of which I’m perfect at, I’ll have you know. (Help!).

When Twins come into connection initially, it’s the most magical, most joyful, most synchronistic and harmonious thing on the planet. Trumpets are playing, trees are dancing and nothing is unattainable. It’s a love that exists nowhere else and is frankly, unexplainable. This happens so your soul can be reminded, ‘see this? This is what it feels like to love and be loved unconditionally.  This is what it’s like to be completely connected to Spirit.’

And then, it’s gone. Just as quick as it came in, often for unexplainable or nonsensical reasons. And so the journey begins, back to yourself, back to wholeness, back to unconditional love. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and also the most rewarding. It’s completely reshaped my entire life and who I am as a person. And I’m (mostly) so grateful for every second of it.

Definitely every Twin Flame journey is unique and some have evolved so much ahead of time that when they connect, they’re able to stay united. But what I’ve seen, on my journey and the journey of my clients and community, it’s not the norm.


Of course, there’s free will and free choice. In every moment, we have a choice to move towards this person or away from it and absolutely every person has the right to decide. Because this journey is not for the faint of heart.

How do you know if someone is your Twin and not just a karmic partner or someone that’s wreaking havoc in your life?  Synchronicities, 11:11 or other number patterns that keep showing up, seeing the person’s name everywhere, dream interactions or astral travel, feeling the other’s feelings and/or thoughts. The best way to know, however, is to ask yourself and ask Spirit to show you. If you’re open, spirit will speak to you in whatever way you’re most willing to listen.

Twins often share gifts and skills or one will have latent skills that the other expresses fully. Both are very wise and connected to themselves and often one, or both are healers or in a profession that is in service to the collective.

It is a deeply challenging journey of commitment, perseverance, patience, facing our shadows, being in our power and taking personal responsibility for everything we create in our lives. Blame, judgement, denial, rejection, abandonment, low self esteem, low self worth and self deservement, lack and victimhood can be some of the biggest blocks to having harmony with your twin.

I don’t know if everyone has a twin or if it is only some people.  Again, I’m not up on the woo side of it. I’m more into navigating it in the physical.

If you’re coming onto this journey or have been on it for a while, please make sure you’re getting the support you need. This is not something you want to try and do on your own. I’m here to support you if it will serve.

With love and light ahead.

Photo by: Fabrizio Verrecchia

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