Money Honey
Three things people never talk about - sex, death and money. So let’s dive right in. As I’ve started to go deeper with my clients and getting clear with them about what’s really holding them back from creating the lives they desire, I’ve come to realize that money is almost always reason numero uno. No one ever seems to have enough of it but there’s often some misperceptions about why that is. Instead of salary, or the expense of the city or rent or or or, it really has to do with what’s going on under the surface.
Most of us are holding a lot of emotional charge around money. It can be incredibly stressful for people, whether you have 12$ in your bank account or $12,000,000. It doesn’t really seem to matter how much money people have, there’s often an inner lizard lurking beneath the surface.
Some common judgments and misperceptions around money include but are not limited to ‘I’m greedy if I want a lot of it’, 'It’s only ok for me to want enough to get by and not more’, ‘Rich people suck’, ‘Money is dirty and corrupts people’, ‘It’s not spiritual or right or good to desire money’, ‘It’s more honourable to have less and struggle financially’, ‘If I have a lot of money I won’t like who I become’, ‘I’ll waste a lot of it on stupid shit’.
The truth is that money is neutral. It holds no charge, no belief systems, no energy except for the ones that we place on it. So if you feel like money is stressful, that’s how it will show up for you in your life. If you feel like there’s never enough of it, then that’s what you’ll create. It’s playing the part of your beliefs.
To get clear about where your beliefs around money are, take a minute and ask yourself this question - ‘How does money make me feel?’ Then answer this - ‘Is the way I feel about money going to create a beautiful, harmonious relationship with money?’ Most of the time the answer is no. If you’re avoiding your husband or wife, won’t look at them, are terrified of them and judge them for being dirty, are you going to have a successful marriage? It's not looking good. It’s the same with your relationship with money.
How do you treat your physical money? Is it crumpled up in a ball in your wallet? Is your wallet a grave site for bills, gum, business cards and other detritus? These things matter.
One of the assignments I often give my clients to start to shift these limiting beliefs and change the energy in their relationship with money is to look at their bank account every day, and tell the money in there, no matter how much it is, how much you love it. Talk to it as if it were your lover. Tell it all the things you love about it, what it does for you, how it makes you feel when it’s here with you in your life. And then watch what happens. Magical things can happen when we shift from lack to abundance, from stress to love, from denial to facing things head on.
The truth is that it’s ok to want money! It’s ok to want lots of it! Money is good and fun and creates opportunities and buys things we need to live happily and helps us live our greatest lives and provides resources to be of service in the world.
What's really a tragedy is that often the people who hold the heaviest judgements around money and are most afraid of having and creating it are the people who want to do the most good in the world. How much positive change can you make in the world by making $50,000/year? How much more positive change could you make in the world if you were making $500,000? The truth is that the world needs more money to be in the hands of the people that are going to do beautiful things with it. That’s not to say that you have to do good with your money. It’s absolutely a choice how you spend your money. But this perspective shift can be helpful when we start to think about increasing our abundance.
We need to change our paradigm around money and have it be fun and joyful and exciting and to know that we are 100% worthy of creating the money that we desire, whatever amount that is.
Sending you big light ahead to creating buttloads of abundance in 2018 and beyond.
With love.
Photo by Nikita Andreev