Let’s just get right to it on this one. People are mirrors. They come into your life to reflect back to you how you feel about yourself. When you see someone look at you with love, or say kind words to you, that is a direct reflection of the love you have for yourself. However, and this is the kicker, the people you have the hardest time with are reflecting back to you aspects of yourself that you dislike and oftentimes are unwilling to look at. The first time I heard this I was pissed. For multiple reasons, but mostly because it felt like this little pearl of wisdom was saying that everything was my fault. That I was the reason the given person was sucking so badly and treating me like crap. And that in fact, it was me who royally sucked. I've since learned that this is not the case. Phew. Everyone that comes into your life is a guru. Picture them wearing a technicolor dreamcoat, like Joseph. These people that you dislike, or push your buttons, or make you fly off the handle in rage are reflecting your yucky bits back to you in order to highlight areas of your life that could use a little more love.

No one can make you feel something that you don’t already feel about yourself. Many of you have heard me explain this using the ‘famous’ green frog analogy. If someone came up to you on the street and told you that you were a green frog, it probably would not spark a lot of emotion; unless, of course, you’re insecure about the fact that you look like a green frog. If this is the case, please contact me and I will help you sort that out. However, if someone came up to you on the street and told you that you were ugly, or fat, or a loser, this may invoke a negative emotional response.

The reason you feel badly about something someone says about you is that deep down, you believe it to be true. Once these beliefs are highlighted however, it brings them out of the shadows and gives them an opportunity to heal. Many of these belief systems operate at the subconscious level and we’re not always aware of them consciously. That’s why these people who reflect them back to us are so important. They become profound gifts instead of enormous a-holes. And let me be clear. It’s certainly a daily practice of mine, but I have yet to master this. It’s just way too easy to blame other people and keep my head firmly buried in the sand. Enter the proverbial ostrich.

When you are able to heal these limiting beliefs about yourself, people’s actions and words will stop having an effect on you because the beliefs no longer exist. This can be done in many ways, but again, I’m partial to using PSYCH-K to heal because it’s so quick and easy and incredibly precise.

There is however, a caveat to this. It is one thing to be aware of your triggers and send love to areas of yourself that need it. It’s definitely another to stay in relationships and surround yourself with people who make you feel low.   It’s important to set clear boundaries and ensure that you surround yourself with people who make you feel loved, supported, encouraged and all the other high vibrational feelings. Follow your gut and be honest with yourself in all of your relationships. Ask yourself whether or not the relationships in your life serve you and make you feel happy and light. If they do not, honour yourself by respectfully distancing yourself from the relationship, which will then allow room for people to come in who will get you into those high vibrations with ease and joy.

I encourage everyone to be courageous and open to learning the lessons and embodying the wisdom that your mirrors have to share with you.  It has certainly made a profound difference in my life.